Last weekend we had an extremely successful roadtrip to visit family in Canberra, with minimal tears and tantrums which was amazing considering we were confined to the car for almost 18 hours there and back. This was especially exciting because this time we got through a family trip without illness or teething woes. Don't get me wrong, I don't expect this to be the case on the next holiday we take but for now I am happy and content in the fact that if he wants to be, Hunter can be really well behaved!
Rewind even 3 or 4 months ago and I was begging for this version of my son to present itself, I was often wondering when on earth things would get easier, when the hell was I going to get uninterrupted sleep and how am I going to get through a visit to the local shopping centre without him trying to fight his way out of the pram kicking and screaming. Rewind further to the newborn days of what felt like never-ending tears, constant vomiting and a refusal to nap for more than 20 minutes at a time and you had a recipe for an anxious, sleep-deprived shell of a Mother.
What I didn't know then, was that this would pass - sure it would feel like a lifetime, but it would pass. Others would tell you that you will get through it, that things will get easier and you will forget the tough times but you simply can't see it at the time (hindsight is a beautiful thing) If I am lucky enough to have another baby in the future I will be going into it with a better understanding of how it all 'works' - of course I will still have bad days, and wonder what on earth I am doing, but I will know that the tough times will pass. I will breathe in that newborn smell a little harder, and hug that screaming baby at 3.00am a little tighter.
Having a toddler at the moment of course holds different challenges like the tantrums and constant need to be in EVERYTHING but the good times far, far outweigh the bad. I'm not silly though, the beautiful and happy times can also pass quickly and the difficult times will continue to return intermittently - but how can you appreciate the rainbow if you don't weather the storm?